PostUse this song for teaching DEAR MAN for asking or saying no

The featured song of the week is “Part of Your World” from the Little Mermaid.


Here are the lyrics Ariel uses to describe how she feels:

I wanna be where the people are

I wanna see, wanna see ’em dancin’

Walking around on those, what do you call ’em?

Oh, feet

She then Asserts what she wants here:

Up where they walk, up where they run

Up where they stay all day in the sun

Wanderin’ free, wish I could be

Part of that world

How can we rewrite this to be a true DEARMAN? 

D- Describe the situation

E- Express your feelings and opinions

A- Assertively ask or say no

R- Reinforce the person you are asking

M- Stay mindful of your goal

A- Appear confident

N- Negotiate for other options

I had a client complete Ariel’s DEAR MAN and then we applied the “DEAR MAN” formula to her situation.

Writing a “DEAR MAN” script as a Disney character is a genius way to demonstrate this skill in a non-threatening, fun way. This genius idea came from one of my DBT Informed Music Therapy teachers, Suzanne Makary, MT-BC.

Can you think of any other Disney characters that need a “DEAR MAN”?

Let us know how it goes.




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Have a Musical Monday!

Hillary Cartner-Ambrose, MT-BC

DBT Informed Music Therapist

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