Learning how to self-validate is an Interpersonal Effectiveness skill that is often difficult and painful. Addressing this concept in a non-threatening way is essential, and this week’s song does just that! I am Enough by Daphne Willis is just the song to start the discussion about self-validation. Circle beliefs you might have about yourself, things […]
PostObservation vs Assumption with “Belly Breathing” Song by Birocratic
Mindfulness. Too often, this word conjures visions of meditation, yoga, and silence. Mention mindfulness to any teen and watch the eye rolls commence. However, when it comes to DBT, we know mindfulness is more complex, has several facets, and is essential. That is why today we will look at a piece of the WHAT Skill, […]
PostUse this song for teaching DEAR MAN for asking or saying no
The featured song of the week is “Part of Your World” from the Little Mermaid. Here are the lyrics Ariel uses to describe how she feels: I wanna be where the people are I wanna see, wanna see ’em dancin’ Walking around on those, what do you call ’em? Oh, feet She then Asserts […]
Post“Keep Movin On” Song by Sam Cooke for Radical Acceptance to Reduce Suffering
Radical Acceptance … to reduce suffering, …wait, what? This concept can be one of the most challenging skills in DBT. It takes a significant amount of awareness to look at a situation and say “Acceptance doesn’t mean approval.” Wrapping our heads around this concept can seem daunting! I was working with a client who was […]
PostUse this song with the STOP skill to curb impulsive behaviors.
The song we’re featuring this week takes us back to the 1990s and the Spice Girls. Their hit “Wanna Be” probably pops into your head. While that is an excellent song for another skill, we are going to use the song “STOP” today for, you guessed it, the STOP skill. Pretty clear title! Not only […]
Post“Before He Cheats” by Carrie Underwood for DBT 3 States of Mind
According to the DBT model, there are three states of mind. Reasonable Mind deals with thinking, facts, and logic. Emotion Mind is ruled by feelings and (often impulsive) urges. Wise Mind is the synthesis (another word for combination or inclusion) of both reason and emotion. It’s a balanced, centered, and calm place of knowing. It’s […]
PostYou Gotta Be” by Des’ree…for DBT Mindfulness What and How Skills
Featured Song for DBT Music Monday: “You Gotta Be” by Des’ree for mindfulness What and How skills We are beginning a series of blog posts that share examples of using songs for strengthening DBT skills. Today’s topic is about mindfulness; specifically about using the what and how skills, and features the song “You Gotta […]